Developments in Young Adulthood Essay

Tayid, who is 29 years old, is born Indian but settled in United States since his childhood. Though he wanted to go for Law School, he was never confident on achieving his goal. He is now working as paralegal in a public defender’s office. After he passed over a promotion opportunity by his boss, he got upset with the position. His parents wanted him to go for another job where he can have prestige, but he did not want to leave the job, as he believes his stay in civil services will lay betterment for his career. Tayid has been dating Rachel, who is 27 years old with a young boy whose name is Luke. She has been sharing accommodation with few of her girlfriends, after she had break up with Luke’s father. One day it is Luke’s birthday. Rachel wanted to plan a celebration. Tayib already took Rachel and Luke to amusement park. However later Rachel invited Tayib and her family members for dinner. Tayib could not make it, as he was stuck up in the midst of his project work. Rachel is upset with Tayib’s absence in the dinner. She is afraid that the relation would not go smoother anymore as she wanted it to be. Tayib is worried why Rachel never understands him well, being a working woman. He thinks she should be aware of the work pressure he is going through. Finally, these thoughts keep both of them in dilemma, if the relation will go fine in the future or not. Young Adulthood stage of human starts usually between 19 and 20, and ends in between 40 and 42. This is the age where boys and girls usually think they are grown up enough to take care of themselves. Majority of young adults realize that this is the right time to build up their career. Yes, in fact, one can plan up one’s career and work on it along with relations at this age, as it is the perfect time. Early period of this stage is too dangerous at times, because they do not like to listen to anyone, they believe they can do things on their own, and they do not like someone taking responsibility of care taking them. As a result, they attempt doing things in haste without thinking much about the consequences and finally fall in failure. That is why people usually get into depression and some times it leads to suicide attempts. A young adult is often into conflicts, social relationships failure, disappointing relations, home sickness, sexuality, grief and loss, depression. One of the major changes is sexuality. Usually they get attracted to an opposite gender. They feel sexual intimacy is real intimacy, and they look for relations. Initially they get happy with each other as long as the sexual relation is good. Slowly, they realize the relation is not going well practically. Because the fact is mental intimacy is more important to the sexual intimacy. Four relationship styles were characteristic: integrated (high friendly and high intimate), intimate (high intimate and low friendly), and friendly (high friendly and low intimate), and uninvolved (low intimate and low friendly) (Fischer, 1980). Here the intimacy that comes with friendly nature can be suggested as more successful one. Both Tayib and Rachel are in their young adulthood. They are much in attraction towards each other and it is kind of a need of opposite gender’s presence in their lives. Generally young adults like to be independent from their parents, and love to stay by their own. Majority of young adults think in a mature way. They plan about their future life and career, and set up some goals. The same is happening with Tayib and Rachel. There is a difference though, that is Tayib is involved seriously in developing career as he thinks he can acquire secured future for himself and also to his family, but Rachel is much worried about personal relations, love and caring towards each other. The young adult must develop intimate relationships with others. Not resolving this conflict leaves the young adult feeling isolated. The young adult must be willing to be open and committed to another individual. (Erikson).